
#318: When The Need to Achieve Becomes Toxic with Jennifer B. Wallace
The Mark Groves Podcast
The Power of Connection and Interdependence
This chapter explores the significance of having someone to rely on during difficult times and the benefits of interdependence in relationships and parenting. It discusses the importance of building a support network and teaching children the skills of reaching out for help and forming connections.
Themes: Parenting, Achievement, Toxic Achievement Culture, Children, Parenting, Confidence, Mental Health, Teens
Summary:
I’m jamming today with Jennifer B. Wallace, an acclaimed journalist and bestselling author of "Never Enough: When Achievement Pressure Becomes Toxic." Jennifer, a mother of three, was struck by the toxic pressure surrounding high-achievement schools. Concerned about the impact on her own children, she embarked on a journey to understand and mitigate this achievement culture's harmful effects, resulting in her book, "Never Enough: When Achievement Cultures Become Toxic and What We Can Do About It."
In this episode, we talk about toxic achievement culture and what parents can do to make their children feel seen, heard, and loved without that being contingent on their achievements.
Discover:
- How parenting has evolved over the past few decades
- What we can do to help our children become mentally strong
- How a sense of “mattering” can protect against burnout for parents and children
- How increased pressure and the need to succeed create a toxic environment for our children
00:00 Intro
00:27 The high expectations of modern parenting
04:51 Value of a college education in today's job market
06:32 Teaching kids that they matter
10:03 Empowering kids with intrinsic motivation
16:07 How toxic achievement culture is impacting children today
22:51 From people-pleasing to self-valuing
31:14 Parenting with value
35:46 Repairing and shifting in parenting
40:55 Teach your kids to ‘never worry alone’
45:18 Be interested in your child’s online world
50:22 Encouraging kids to celebrate other’s achievements
Links:
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferbrehenywallace/
- Book: https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/pre-order
- Website: https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/
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