What is a Good Life? #158 | Finding Self-Love Beyond Achievement
Where do you belong? How do you best use your gifts?
These questions have followed Alan Wilson throughout his life—from childhood football pitches to corporate boardrooms. In this deeply honest conversation, Alan shares his journey from seeking external validation to cultivating self-love, exploring how grief, self-inquiry, and simple presence have reshaped his understanding of a good life.
Alan Wilson is a Director of People & Operations and qualified coach with 17+ years in senior leadership roles. He supports leaders and organisations navigating change by combining commercial insight with a deeply human approach—focused on self-awareness, integrity, and sustainable performance.
In this episode:
- The childhood patterns behind our adult struggles
- Why achievement never feels like enough
- Finding centre in an increasingly distracted world
- How children guide us back to presence
- Why self-love transforms leadership
- The agency we have despite feeling disempowered
This conversation is for anyone questioning whether they're enough, struggling with validation, or wondering if there's more to life than the next achievement.
For more of Alan's work:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alan-wilson-084b3324/
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00:00 - Where Do I Belong?
05:23 - The Validation Trap
10:47 - Self-Inquiry and Grief
16:12 - Moments That Allow Breathing
21:35 - Toxicity and Modern Life
27:43 - Children as Our Compass
33:21 - Beyond Material Accumulation
38:45 - Dismantling the Armour
44:02 - Agency in a Disempowered World
49:18 - Transmitting Our Gifts Daily
54:31 - A Life That's Evolving
