I really wanted to look at the way that again, those little cracks, you know, if somebody creates a big crack, that doesn't mean that that was the thing, right? There's still a lot of other stuff. I think it was going to have the same ending, even if the sort of like circuitous track it took to get there was different. Right. So you ask if your kids will wonder why being their mom wasn't enough for you because you discussed that and then you realize that men don't struggle with guilt and wanting to be more than a dad so they can have both the personal and the professional together. It's an old why women still can't have it