✅ How to avoid creating performance identities in your kids
✅ Why "consistency compounds" in parenting just like investing
✅ The 4 legs of legacy (hint: wealth is only 25% of it!)
✅ How to have intentional family vision meetings that actually work
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SUMMARY
What if the words you speak as a dad today become your child's inner voice for decades to come? In this episode, Lance Welch—dad of three adult entrepreneurs and grandfather of two—shares how he moved from being a "dictator dad" to a "friend dad" while building intentional multi-generational impact. You'll discover the four stages of fatherhood, why creating performance identities in our kids backfires, and how to transition from survival-mode parenting to legacy-building leadership in your family.
Takeaways:
- There are four distinct stages of fatherhood: dictator dad (young kids), consultant dad (asking "what would you do?"), advocate dad (letting them make mistakes), and friend dad (adult relationships)
- Consistency compounds—whether in finances or fatherhood, small intentional actions over time create massive impact
- Avoid creating performance identities in your children by celebrating the "gain" (progress made) rather than focusing on the "gap" (falling short of perfection)
- Choose your inconvenience: invest time teaching skills on the front end rather than being constantly inconvenienced doing everything yourself
- The four legs of legacy are vision, values, knowledge, and wealth—with wealth being only one-fourth of what you pass down
- Empty nest doesn't have to mean relationship decline—40% of couples divorce during this transition, but it can be your greatest season yet
Guest:
Lance Welch is a legacy navigator, leadership coach, and author of "Legacy Navigator: Creating Intentional Multi-Generational Impact." Along with his wife, he hosts the "Beyond the Nest" podcast, helping couples thrive during the empty nest transition. After spending decades in corporate leadership at a Fortune 100 company, Lance now coaches business leaders and families on creating intentional impact. He and his wife have been married for 37 years, have three adult sons who are all entrepreneurs, and are proud grandparents of two. They live in the Nashville area of Tennessee.
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