Ancient societies often ritualized those processes, right? There was an understanding that this was a part of us. And what happens when that gets damned up? Well, it'll pathologize sooner or later. So we don't choose feelings. Feelings happen. We can choose to live them unconsciously. We can project them on to others. We can annest the ties, but we never choose them. That's part of what produced my depression af mid life. i have no question about that. I had come from,. as i mention, and again, i say this with love and respectd, and grief, i must say, i learned to control my emotions. I learned to