If you're unhappy with something in your life, consider this principle: Consider how much of my current situation is because of a belief that i hold. The second thing to remember is that the stake in the rope serves an important purpose. Your brain wouldn't have picked it up unless it did something for you. And if you really want to overcome it, you really have to acknowledge that it's not just a stake in a rope. It's also an anchor, right? It's like a home base. It's all of those things.