Developing Sense of Contextual Effects on Behaviour

In idealizing, there's an imagined special relationship that is often created in the mind of a preoccupied person. What we need to begin to do is actually track what these agreements are explicitly between the people you're in relationship with. Fostering sensitivity to otextual effects on behavior. And if it isn't supported, how you would investigate what's actually happening, rather than just the appearance of what's happening.