The Cost of Parenting in the Open

I thought about early in the pandemic, I remember a couple of conversations with working moms who, who's kids were at home. They wouldn't bother them, but they came in, you know, mom. And what I sensed from the person I was talking to was first embarrassment of like, Oh my God, this is, this shouldn't be happening. Whereas if a man does it, it's like, oh, great, that's great. You know, you're such a great dad. But then I can also imagine it the other way where it's, there's sort of more of a cost for women to do it. There's just fear of social judgment, I