Your ex-husband who you, he said that he had been doing this since he was a teenager and he was sneaking around behind your back. He says that you caused the behavior that predates you. It's my fault he transitioned because if I just wanted to give him another chance, he just, he wouldn't have done it. That's the reality. But unfortunately, for a time, my kids believe that. They believe it was my fault. And so, you know, what happened in those 14 years? I told you about the pregnancy belly. There was a time in those, not 14, there's 11 years that he, after the birth of our first daughter, she