You can't avoid their influence on your relationships. You have to acknowledge it and counter it, right? So this is where, like, a lot of people are looking for a solution of avoidance. And the other really crazy thing here is, like, i knoit's shocking sometimes. Sometimes when your family is concerned about the person that you're dating, they may know better than you two. We just don't consider that possibility at all. It's inconceivable that my family knows me better than i do. Inconceivable that my parents, who have watched me grow, understand what my weaknesses are. The way that you talk to them is going to be open ended questions and non