Many men struggle to get in shape because they don't have discipline outside of the gym. If a man can do it for money, which is his mind, body and women, imagine how much of a high value man he can self control. In person is always better because people can read your energy. And that is something that you can't always get online. The nerves are much higher in person. DMing someone takes nothing. Do you get nervous asking, so I was speaking to girls in person? Only more.