Can't Sleep in Somnia?

I wonder how that feels because it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong, to be honest. My mom always says there's always a third variable. Like when someone is mean to you or their reaction seems sort of outsized to a moment and you blame yourself. You know intellectually it's probably not you. It's probably they're just having a bad day. Maybe they had too much coffee or they're stressed out about their job or something. It's not you, but it's hard not to take it personally. To see someone like that shook me up. Do you know what I mean?