You Don't Win a Marriage, You Could Lose One

The weakness of the pyramid is that, as appealing as the bottom sounds, it's really no better than top down. The fatal flaw is you are either thinking of yourself as at the bottom, or your thinking of other people is at the bottom. Once you have that vision of yourself and others, it's doom. You think of yourself as a star, and you think of other people's is stars. What could we do together? That is open ended, optimistic.