Control the External Situation

When people have more of a fixed mindset and they just see themselves as having certain capacity, like I have this much capacity, then they're always making sure they don't get overwhelmed by trying to control everything around them. And so that there was also the idea of wanting to control like controlling external situations or people. That's your old goal is you want to change control the external situation. But the better we are reframing, the more we can then see, okay, this is giving me an opportunity to grow in some way. So how do I need to change here? How can I grow through this? Mm hmm.