How My Husband Uses My Past Mistakes to Make Excuses

My husband has had multiple emotional affairs in the past, especially while I was pregnant. He always plays the victim when I'm upset or when I try talking to him. We don't have sex anymore because I told him I don't want sex to be the only time that he gives me attention. Remember we are close to divorce or separation or anything. A large part of my job on this is to make jokes about it. And usually at some point they say: You really want you to go first for it? Not a hard question. Good luck.