Because I like your comment so much, Jeff, you have to get right with yourself, right? But what does that mean to get right with yourself? And I'm around a lot of young people and they often want advice on what kind of major they should pick for what kind of career should they go on to be a therapist, should they go on to be a researcher, et cetera. And where I try to tell them, and I don't know if it lands at all, but might be the first time they hear it and maybe they need to hear it like a hundred times more or maybe they just need to turn 35 before they get it like I did. But in the end, it's about understanding what your values are and making a life that fits those values. And so if your values are good, close relationships and security or something like this, then you need to create a life around that. But for instance, Henry Rollins clearly has autonomy as a value, maybe adventure as a value, creation as a value. And he's living a life that caters to that. And that gives meaning when there's a fit between your life and your values, then you feel like you have a good and meaningful life. But of course, the society as a whole also tries to instill values in people, right? Either through the government with incentives for certain types of lives and acceptance of certain types of lifestyles, let's say, or certain orientations or whatever. And of course, I would say marketing as well. You try to instill certain values that make people buy your products per se. So I think it's hard to make sense. And then to look at what is traditional, what is the majority doing, what is prescriptive in a way, I think puts some people on the wrong path because they have like values that are not their own or they'll try and live a life that's not authentic to who they are. And I think that can be very confusing. It's difficult to find out, I think, where what is important to you and what are you willing to sacrifice for

that? It's especially difficult when people marry young. West very well said. And maybe, Jeff, we can touch on some of those things. Let's talk about some of the key results from this project. Can you give people a little bit of background about the sample and how you did this? And then after you do that, introduce some of the findings that you've had?

Sure. Yeah. I mean, what we tried to do was basically review every paper on singlehood and wellbeing that we could get our hands on. And there's not that many papers. So we felt like we ended up doing a decently comprehensive job because it's such a young field. I mean, I will say everything that we talk about today in terms of the findings, it's such new research. So I feel like everything is provisional, everything is up for debate. There's lots of types of single people that haven't had a lot of voice in the debate yet. So I kind of like to throw stuff out there, but nothing is definitive that we're going to talk about today. But that's what makes this so much fun, right? There's so much to learn about it. But yeah, we basically tried to scare up all of the research on singlehood that we could. And we tried especially to focus on papers that could give us just samples of single people that we could focus on. So I guess we can go through some of the highlights here. And I think a lot of it is not shocking.

I'm glad you've pointed this out because everybody wants to be surprised. Oh, there's this counterintuitive findings. But good science should match your intuitions as a smart experienced scientist or as it should match the experiences of the regular everyday people. The fact is when I was reading through these results, I thought they were interesting, but it wasn't gasping. Like, I should really

appreciate you saying

that.