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When your one-on-ones start sounding like therapy sessions with zero breakthroughs, it’s time to ask—what’s really going on here? Jason and Amy unpack a Reddit post from a manager caught in a swirl of venting, defiance, and total burnout from their team. They dive into what venting actually signals, why some people shoot down every idea (even the good ones), and how to rebuild trust when the whole vibe is off. Sometimes it’s not about “fixing” people—it’s about listening like you mean it and why “don’t bring me problems, bring me solutions” might be the most toxic advice you never meant to give. It’s a deep dive into messy middle management moments, complete with hard truths, small wins, and the uncomfortable art of getting unstuck—without just slapping on a smile and pretending everything’s fine.

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Episode Links:

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• Effective 1:1s - Tips For One-on-One Meetings With Your Team | Radical Candor

• 7 Ways To Improve One-on-One Meetings | Radical Candor

• Have More Effective 1:1 Meetings | Radical Candor Podcast 2 | 9

• Resistant Direct Reports | Radical Candor Podcast 7 | 8

• The Go-To Question | Radical Candor Podcast 2 | 8

• Some direct reports have nothing to say during 1-on-1s | Reddit

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

Jason and Amy introduce a Reddit post about managing one-on-ones that turn into venting sessions.

(00:02:35) Complaining vs. Valid Frustration

How to treat repeated venting as a signal, not background noise.

(00:04:00) The Manager’s Middle Role

The challenges of managing from the middle of the org chart.

(00:05:12) Listening as a Strategic Tool

Why reflective listening helps clarify what really matters to your team.

(00:06:33) Soliciting Specific Feedback Effectively

Using targeted questions to gather feedback from frustrated reports.

(00:09:52)Tailoring Feedback Questions

Why not all feedback questions are equal: timing and specificity are key.

(00:10:37) Celebrating Small Wins

How to acknowledge constraints while celebrating progress.

(00:12:17) Shifting from Emotion to Action

Encouraging forward motion by focusing on what can be done now.

(00:14:19) Managing Venting Time

Balancing space to vent with the need to move forward.

(00:17:03) Venting Culture & Peer Influence

How one person’s negativity can shape the entire team dynamic.

(00:19:01) Manipulative Insincerity & Unmet Needs

Understanding venting as a shortcut to connection and belonging.

(00:20:35) “Don’t Bring Me Problems” – Helpful or Harmful?

Why banning complaints can backfire—and what to do instead.

(00:22:14) The Roleplay: Shooting Down Every Idea

A roleplay showing how to respond when every idea gets shot down.

(00:27:00) Solutions Without Overpromising

How to be honest about constraints without losing trust.

(00:28:54) Radical Candor Tips

Actionable tips to guide productive, empathetic one-on-ones.

(00:31:38) Conclusion

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