Instead of trying to imagine a specific career you think you'd be good at or that would make you happy take a more holistic perspective I want you to ask yourself the following questions what do you love doing. What is your greatest personal strength? What are some of your non-negotiables for your personal life and what kind of life do you want to have beyond work  I think this reveals a lot more than simply choosing a job at a certain age and deciding that that's the one we've decided to do. now there are things that you haven't even discovered yet which could feel an even deeper you know an even deeper need or desire within you, he says.