How to Overcome a State of Disregulation

So many people come in to me and say, i don't know what's wrong with me. And really on being hard on themselves because they haven't learned these skills. I would ask e my client about what they do if they're upset right now. What they do toa, to self soothe? Because that's a big one. Usually i hear that people don't have lot of skills with which to draw on. So once you learn some skills and understand what's behind it, n then you are ready to go.