Speaker 1
If I have a bad seat, I'm like, Oh, you fucking hate me. You don't like you don't like me. Right? Because Aaron, you went to a wedding a couple of years ago and you still talk about how annoyed you are about your seat. You know, I'm like, wait, it wasn't a bad seat. You were with that person. You're like, no, it was a bad seat. But honestly, what happened when I got there, I wasn't like offended as much as I got there and I was a little surprised. And I think I was embarrassed. And because other friends were kind of like, Oh, this is where you are as if I was like the huge reject. And when I I think what happened and I think what people what happens a lot because it happened to me too. When you're looking at a seating chart, you're looking at a piece of paper that is flat that is not the actual room. So when I did my seating chart, I put a group of my girlfriends at a table that seemed very close to my table. And then in the actual room, they were like behind a wall and like a pillar and like it was a terrible seat. They couldn't see anything and they were offended. I didn't know that that's what the table would be like in the actual room. I didn't go to the actual room before my wedding, like an idiot. I just looked at the piece of paper. But I just think that the room has like a personality you don't really know until you're in it. Right. So the question is when you're doing seating, what do you need to think about so that people don't feel bad or are people inevitably going to feel bad? Like, what is your thought? Yeah. You know, I kind of think when I'm doing seating charts, I always tell people to take the room or even a poster board, whatever you need to, and actually put on there and kind of use even velcro and move people around like actually give put names and test. But I think the biggest thing is I like to sprinkle tables. So it's not all like the fun side in the front, the boring ones in the back, I'll put a really fun table in the back next to like the aunt table. And but the same time, the tables are the most important in terms of who is at that table because if you're sitting next to somebody for the entire time and you have nothing to talk about versus if five aunties are all next to each other, they're having a gap away. They're having a great time. So that's more important to me than where the actual table is. What table shape do you think is the best in a wedding setting? Rounds. Rounds. Yeah. I was thinking that like if you were able to do one continuous like long curved table that goes all the way around around the. It's like that would be amazing. That would be amazing. Yeah, then there's no like bad table. It's like a horseshoe, the horseshoe table all the way around, right? No. You would just need a really big room for that. You would need a huge room, but you definitely shouldn't put most important and trickle back to the least important. That's the last thing you should do. Right. So you should sprinkle in people who are going to be perceived as important. You should sprinkle those people throughout. Yeah. I definitely agree with that. Yes. And just make sure they like everybody at the table. Nobody's going to like think about that. That's the most important thing. Who would they want to next to? Do some matchmaking in there if you want? Yeah. Because I think some people are like, oh really? You shouldn't be so offended, but it's like, guys, yes, you should. It's perfectly reasonable to be offended if you're sitting in the back with someone's second cousin who you know, if you're in the friend group, like it can rule. The problem though is that they might be using you as a way to make that person feel like they're not in a bad seat, but then they need to tell you that they need to be like, look, like dad had a party once.