How should I handle my 16-year-old binding and using they/them pronouns?

In this groundbreaking episode, I introduce RepairBot: the world's first artificial intelligence chatbot specifically designed for parents navigating their child's gender identity questions. Trained on my ROGD Repair program, coaching transcripts, and even my own voice, RepairBot serves as a 24/7 support tool for parents of trans-identified adolescents and young adults seeking help navigating the tricky terrain of maintaining connection while encouraging healthy choices.

I demonstrate RepairBot's capabilities through a recorded conversation where I role-play as a parent seeking guidance about a 16-year-old daughter who's binding and requesting they/them pronouns. The AI impressively handles complex concepts from my course, including double binds, parts language, accusation audits, and alter-casting. We explore how to build genuine self-esteem in teens, navigate rigid ideological positions, and handle situations where adult children violate agreements about medical transition.

I address the ethics of AI in this sensitive space, explaining why I created RepairBot despite the uncanny valley effect and ethical questions. With families already turning to generic AI for help—and receiving conflicting advice—I believe offering an AI trained on specialized knowledge is better than leaving parents to navigate alone. RepairBot speaks 40 languages and integrates with the full ROGD Repair curriculum to provide culturally accessible, evidence-based support when families need it most.

Try RepairBot free at ROGDrepairbot.com or find it embedded as a golden chat box in the bottom right corner of any of my websites (rogdrepair.com, sometherapist.com, stephaniewinn.com). Enter your email address to access the voice call feature. 

RepairBot Unlimited comes with new ROGD Repair memberships so students get all the homework help they need. Get yours at ROGDrepair.com, or add-on RepairBot separately here. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2025 to take 50% off your first month of ROGD Repair with RepairBot Unlimited. Report any technical issues, incorrect answers or unanswered questions to hello@sometherapist.com 

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[00:00:00] Start – Introducing Repair Bot and episode overview

[00:01:00] What Repair Bot is and how it helps parents

[00:02:00] Role play Q&A begins - teen binding and pronouns

[00:04:00] Applying the “double bind” concept to communication

[00:07:00] Using “parts language” to model emotional awareness

[00:10:00] Explaining and using “accusation audits”

[00:13:00] Discussing hypothetical father’s rigidity and emotional maturity

[00:16:00] Helping a headstrong teen with moral development and ego

[00:20:30] Building confidence and competence outside ideology

[00:24:00] Friend's son using estrogen secretly; resentment, entitlement

[00:28:30] End of demo – reflection on AI ethics and Repair Bot limits

[00:32:00] Coaching versus therapy, role of AI support for parents

[00:36:00] Repair Bot’s purpose, boundaries, and user guidelines

[00:38:30] Features: language support, access options, and pricing

[00:41:30] Technical note – how subscriptions and manual setup work

[00:44:30] Closing remarks – patience, clarifications, and final sign-off

[00:45:00] End credits – music, acknowledgments, and program links

ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Now featuring 24/7 personalized AI support implementing the tools with RepairBot! Use code SOMETHERAPIST2025 to take 50% off your first month.

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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

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