We sort of all want acceptance and yet we can be very terrified of it. If you're in that kind of situation, you need to think a lot about first of all, what do I believe about myself? Where did I learn to believe that about myself as people start accepting me)? Let's pay attention to how I'm responding and do so non judgmentally because if you say I shouldn't be responding this way, that's going to make things harder. Just notice what your reaction is. And then what you'll notice is that out of that reaction are going to come particular behaviors like now that this person is starting to really accept me. Let me trauma dump on them to push them