Catching up with Stan Tatkin
The Science of Psychotherapy
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How to Do Feedback Really Well?
I think people are not, I think some people have learned to be good communicators and understand that it's a great effort to speak to a variety of minds. But this idea that in any back and forth that two people are actually understanding precisely what the other means is false. It takes a lot of effort to go back and forth and to, and to air correct. And that's a problem with couples because couples are always taking the shortest route and thinking that they say something or think that they were understood by others. They really don't because we're lazy. We include it. By the way, memory is another problem perception is another problem. Yeah, memory is a huge problem.
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