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Die Illusion der emotionalen Transparenz
In diesem Kapitel wird die komplexe Beziehung zwischen eigenen Unsicherheiten und der Wahrnehmung durch andere Menschen untersucht. Es wird auf die häufigen Missverständnisse eingegangen, die aus der Annahme resultieren, dass andere unsere Gefühle klar erkennen können, und die Bedeutung klarer Kommunikation hervorgehoben. Zudem zeigt das Kapitel auf, wie das Bedürfnis, gemocht zu werden, soziale Interaktionen beeinflusst und zu unnötigen Ängsten führen kann.
Warum willst Du von allen gemocht werden? Du magst doch auch nicht alle. Sagt sich leicht, aber so viele von uns sind People-Pleaser. So vielen von uns ist es so wichtig, was andere von uns denken. Dabei schätzen wir unsere Wirkung auf andere oft völlig falsch ein und machen uns zu viel Druck. Atze und Leon klären, wie das gelassener geht.
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Quellen:
Das Hauptreview, auf das wir uns in der Folge beziehen: Flykt, A., Hörlin, T., Linder, F., Wennstig, A. K., Sayeler, G., Hess, U., & Bänziger, T. (2021). Exploring emotion recognition and the understanding of others’ unspoken thoughts and feelings when narrating self-experienced emotional events. Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, 45(1), 67-81. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10919-020-00340-4
Weitere Studien: Ickes, W., Stinson, L., Bissonnette, V., & Garcia, S. (1990). Naturalistic social cognition: Empathic accuracy in mixed-sex dyads. Journal of personality and social psychology, 59(4), 730. https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1037/0022-3514.59.4.730
Sels, L., Ickes, W., Hinnekens, C., Ceulemans, E., & Verhofstadt, L. (2021). Expressing thoughts and feelings leads to greater empathic accuracy during relationship conflict. Journal of Family Psychology, 35(8), 1199. https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1037/fam0000871
Berlamont, L., Hodges, S., Sels, L., Ceulemans, E., Ickes, W., Hinnekens, C., & Verhofstadt, L. (2023). Motivation and empathic accuracy during conflict interactions in couples: it’s complicated!. Motivation and Emotion, 47(2), 208-228. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11031-022-09982-x
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Oviedo, V. Y., Guydish, A. J., & Tree, J. E. F. (2025). The liking gap online: People like us more than we think. Computers in Human Behavior Reports, 17, 100582. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chbr.2024.100582
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Klumb, P. L., Wicki, C., & Rauers, A. (2019). Physicians' Interactions with Peers: Empathic Accuracy during Shift Handovers on Intensive‐Care Units. Applied Psychology: Health and Well‐Being, 11(1), 102-125. https://doi.org/10.1111/aphw.12146.
Schweinle, W. E., & Ickes, W. (2007). The role of men's critical/rejecting overattribution bias, affect, and attentional disengagement in marital aggression. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 26(2), 173-198. https://doi.org/10.1521/jscp.2007.26.2.173
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