
199: Kris Vallotton: The Difference Between Living Like A Slave And Living Like A Son
BraveCo Podcast
Pruning: Discipline That Produces Fruit
They explain John 15 pruning, repentance, and how God's discipline shapes character and fruitfulness.
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No young man should stumble his way into manhood. In this episode, I sit down with my dad for a conversation that hit me in the chest: the difference between living like a slave and living like a son. We open John 15 and talk about how obedience is real, but it’s not the finish line. God is inviting us into friendship, into revelation, into the kind of inner transformation where we don’t just “do what we’re told,” we become like Him.
Then we go somewhere most people never take the Joseph story. Joseph didn’t just interpret a dream and “save the day.” We unpack how withholding revelation can create slavery, how a short-term solution can build a long-term prison, and why your gifting without a legacy mindset can accidentally harm the very people you’re called to serve. If you’re a man building a business, a family, or a ministry, this will challenge the way you define wisdom and success.
We also get practical: pruning, discipline, sonship, and the process God uses to mature a man—called, tested, equipped, commissioned. If you’ve been stuck in survival mode, fear mode, performance mode, or you’ve never known what it feels like to be a beloved son, this conversation will give you language and direction. At the end, I share a simple 5-minute daily exercise that can start rewiring your inner world: asking the Lord what He’s thinking about you.
Chapters:
00:00 - Rite of Passage: A Clear Path Into Manhood
00:50 - Welcome Back + Dad Joins the Conversation
03:44 - John 15: From Obedience to Friendship With God
07:17 - Joseph’s Dream: Revelation That Changes Everything
10:40 - The Twist: Joseph Enslaves Egypt
12:26 - Slavery Comes From Withholding Revelation
15:06 - Symptomatic Cures Become Tomorrow’s Slavery
18:15 - Your Home: Palace or Prison Depends on Revelation
30:49 - Initiation: Beloved to Sage (The Manhood Pathway)
47:32 - How to Build Sonship: 5 Minutes With God Daily
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