We're not born a tabula rossa, a blank slate, right? We have certain predilections. We have tendencies. Psychologists call temperament. And it's very interesting that there was a major study of temperament in infants done at new york university back in the early nineteen sixties by thomas and chess. They boiled it down to nine basic patterns of temperament that they found. So the idea is, your temperament is what you lead with, how you cope with things when the chips are down. Some people, when there's a conflict, we go hide. But people have different reactions. It's about noticing it so that we have some options and freedom can choose...