This chapter explores the challenges of recognizing healthy love and the importance of feeling safe to be oneself in a relationship. It emphasizes that love is not just a feeling, but an action and practice. The chapter also discusses the confusion between feelings of anxiety, excitement, and passion, and the importance of choosing healthy love over the illusion of excitement portrayed in media.
When we experience healthy love for the first time after years of unsettling, unhealthy, toxic relationships, one of the first reactions we can have is "why does this feel so boring?" Often we confuse safety with a lack of passion, or assume that just because this person doesn't activate our nervous system, we are missing the spark. This is often left over from past relationships where we have confused anxiety with excitement.
In this episode, we bring on Sarah Yudkin, the founder of You Love and You Learn to break down the relationship anxiety that comes with experiencing healthy love for the first time and how to dissect your relationship OCD, the unconscious ways we sabotage relationships and all that comes with it. Listen now.
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