How to Have More Compassion in Your Life

i think so long of my life i thought compassion was like this thing that you earn, not consciously. That's just not true. We all are human beings out here trying our best and messing up every day. And if i want to influence some one or impact some one, then i can do more through my compassion than i can do through my hate. Number two for increasing our compassion is to practise curiosity. So if i have a behaviour that i'm not the biggest fan of, i can get down to the root of what am i trying to get through this behaviour? How is thi serving me? What's preventing me from changing that behaviour? And i can make more lasting change