How Do You Enter a Debate?

I feel like there's two big problems. There's bad faith debating and then there's I think that there's a certain kind of it's a good example because people really talk past one another. Sometimes we get too lost in trying to debate and convince the other person or are you trying to convince a third person? The first chapter of my book is About winning an audience over because that is the number one goal. It's also about listening something I'm really bad at But I give the example of Bill Clinton the most famous example in American Presidential history, when he was asked: How does the national debt affect you personally? He looks at George Brissen at his watch and says how