Why is it so hard to leave situations we know deep down aren't right for us? Whether it’s a relationship that’s run its course or a job that drains us daily, many of us find ourselves stuck—unable to move forward even when the decision seems obvious on paper.

In this episode of This Is How You Think, we're unpacking one of the most common (yet least understood) reasons why we stay in cycles that don’t serve us.

This conversation dives into the very human experience of emotional attachment, why logic alone isn’t enough to create change, and the often overlooked skill that makes all the difference when it comes to real emotional resilience.

We also explore what it actually means to “sit with your feelings,” why most people avoid it, and how bypassing this process keeps us trapped in the same emotional loops.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated with yourself for not being able to “just move on” or found it hard to support a loved one who’s struggling to let go, this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with a new lens on emotional growth—and why the work you might be avoiding is exactly what will set you free.

Topics Discussed in the Episode:

Why we stay in relationships or jobs that aren’t working
How emotional avoidance keeps us stuck
What it actually means to “sit with your feelings”
The difference between emotional processing and emotional outsourcing
How to build emotional resilience without bypassing pain

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