Creating Your Personal Sanctuary

Do you feel like people often cut you off when you're talking?

When was the last time someone really listened to you?

Today, Jay sits down with international keynote speaker and communication coach Vinh Giang for an inspiring conversation about building real confidence and finding your voice. Together, they dive into how the way we speak, and how we feel about speaking, isn’t something we’re born with, but a skill you build through experience, self-awareness, and practice.

Vinh breaks down the myth that confident speakers are just born that way. Through his simple “four stages of competence” framework, he explains how with the right tools and consistent practice—anyone can become a powerful communicator, even if you’re naturally shy or introverted. It’s not about changing your personality; it’s about learning to manage your energy and use your voice with intention.

Throughout the episode, Vinh shares easy, practical tips, like how to stop people from interrupting you in meetings, how to sound more confident, and how to use your voice to its full potential. One of the most touching parts of the conversation is when Vinh opens up about his father, a refugee who didn’t understand his career choice at first, but later became his biggest supporter. It’s a reminder that communication isn’t just about being heard, it’s also about understanding, connecting, and growing in every part of life.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Move from Shy to Confident with Communication

How to Master the Four Stages of Speaking Competence

How to Build Self-Awareness with the Record & Review Method

How to Boost Vocal Presence and Authority Instantly

How to Communicate Effectively as an Introvert

How to Reframe “Fake” as “Unfamiliar” When Practicing New Skills

Whether you’re a seasoned speaker, a reluctant communicator, or someone simply yearning to be heard, this episode will leave you feeling inspired, equipped, and encouraged to use your voice, not just to speak, but to be seen.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:29 Are You Struggling to Communicate Clearly?

02:13 The Path to Becoming a Confident Speaker

04:27 Do you have “Unconscious Incompetence?” 

06:07 Change Your Habits, Change Your Confidence

08:40 A Simple Way to Build Self-Awareness

12:30 Why You Keep Getting Interrupted (and How to Stop It)

15:57 Why Communication Skills Are More Important Than Ever

19:01 Protecting Your Energy as an Introvert or Extrovert

23:21 How to Create a Routine That Helps You Perform at Your Best

26:25 Why You Cringe at the Sound of Your Own Voice

31:00 What Failure Teaches Us About Growth

35:31 How to Become a Natural Communicator

39:43 Why Mastering Communication Gives You True Freedom

44:49 Vinh’s Most Embarrassing Public Speaking Moment

47:53 Do Accents Hold You Back from Being Understood?

52:57 The Pen-in-Mouth Trick to Sharpen Your Speech

56:20 Don’t Just Learn the Tools, Own Them

59:36 How to Slow Down Your Speech Without Sounding Boring

01:04:45 It’s Not Just What You Say, It’s How People Hear It

01:07:40 Matching Energy: How to Meet People Where They Are

01:13:25 How to Show Up as the Bigger, Bolder Version of Yourself

01:16:02 Why Public Speaking Is Still the #1 Fear

01:18:00 How Filming Yourself Can Instantly Improve Your Speaking

01:25:07 What Makes Steve Jobs’ Speech So Powerful

01:28:35 Why We Sense When Someone Feels Inauthentic

01:34:06 Vinh on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Vinh Quang Giang | Website

Vinh Quang Giang | Instagram

Vinh Quang Giang | X

Vinh Quang Giang | YouTube

Vinh Quang Giang | LinkedIn

Vinh Quang Giang | Facebook

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