i don't want somebody that's just going to distract me from dread right i would like somebody that would help me process my dread yeah and nurture and nurture my dread. ask yourself what do you need out of a relationship meaning do you want Somebody who will like help you heal by fire and challenge you or do you want somebody who will be very exciting and thrilling? There's no wrong answer,  there's no leftover like let's fight yeah because well we're both in this together. I'm not giving the advice only to this person but to everybody too.