Yung, Is It Only Subjective or Is This Really Objective?

As a yungian analyst, how do you look at this? Because i personally am very undecided as to what's really going on here. Every time i have a dream, i still of a dead relative. In spite of knowing this phenomenology, i still go through. Is that person trying to get a message through to me? Or as a young says sometime, is that the complex of the mother or father within me?