How Boredom Can Be Misunderstood

I'm a big fan of like attachment theory. So the way I think of it is neither of our attachment systems were being activated There wasn't this sense of like nervousness or not to say there wasn't excitement or attraction but there wasn't thatlike Necessarily butterflies and your feeling unsure about what the other person is thinking. It's been yeah, I think it's been really good and healthy and yeah I I knew going into it in theory what a healthy relationship was supposed to look like. But over and over and over again the thing that I heard was like frankly, it feels kind of boring compared to relationships if you've been in them when they are toxic  and crazy