i think that we're getting more in touch with what it means. monogamy is, i commit irrationally to your well being. The ones that have worked have been very rules based. I know that when it's a little too fluid, its just as sloppy as what it is and it always ends badly. And also, you just really have to be, i go have a sandwich. That's there. Yo, go. There. Also, i do think you have to be honest about the ramifications around what it means to watch your partner fux someone else in front of you.