When you've been put in a box and they've put you there, you coming out of the box is disruptive of their model of reality. So wha do they do? They try and actively prevent you from doing that in order that you stay the same. Ry i depends on the people around you. But like, it's so destruptive to someone's understanding of the world and themselves because they're putting everything in very rigid boxes. Yes, life is chaos, yel, they're just not grasping it. They're trying to make sense by using rules. The only what i've realize by trying to understand people is that all the rules they give are not rules they follow