Who is forgiveness for? Because i've thought a lot about this, and i don't have a good answer. I mean, is it for the offender? Is it for society? Is it better that we think of it as a social virtue, as opposed to an individual practice? Forgiving someone and letting go of your right to pursue some kind of recompense from them, it doesn't feel amazing. It can oftentimes be another lair of pain and effort that you have to expend.