Ness is derived from the same word, same root word, as wholeness. And being able to watch bogy nights and to be able to see suffering, exploitation, whatever it might be, strangeness was like a fully realized person has no argument. The two define each other. Same oin different sides. In fact, you can't have one without the other. We just want growth. He comes mooes. Remember that.
Pete and Val, the one night they have a babysitter, catch up and get INTO it!