Is There a Way in Spirituality to Give Up What You Want?

After living with somebody where i was absolutely delighted and thrilled and loved the intimacy of it and fed on it, i also saw that that wasn't the path that was suitable for me at this moment. Until you confine the place in yourself can be at peace without having what you want, then you are in the optimum position to get what you want. It's the statement in spirituality, again and again, give up what you want and you will get it. You go through a grief, you go through a loss. The grief, i'm not going to get what i want, and im going to be lonely, and it's going to hurt. And here i am.