Reactivity and Love

When we're in that hijack, what's happened is our system has encountered stress. There's an unmet need. And when there's like a real raw sense there, the survival brain takes over and tries to get away from the pain of that un met need. So reactivity is a way of trying to take care of us. The problem is it doesn't work. It's not like we can skip from fight-flight freeze to embracing with love. That's not organic. We have to keep evolving. I mean, that's just the way life goes."