How to Approach Sexual Trauma With Your Therapist

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There are some therapists that are not trained in trauma actually so before you speak to sexual say about sexual trauma to your therapist you might want to ask them questions about the training and their experience. Even if your therapist is trauma trained there might be something about your therapist that reminds you of your abuser it could be the gender or they semi-color it could be the same tone of voice right? You don't want to launch into it just go very slow just want a little bit at a time only the little bit that you feel okay to say, she says. "The best way to talk about the trauma without retromatizing yourself is by very small little bits and pieces"

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Silva Neves, who is a psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist and author, to dispel all the myths around sex addiction and give us a better framework to view sexual behaviour through. Silva talks about the difference between the public idea of sex addiction and the understanding of it in a sex therapy clinic, and gives us a rundown on the definition of addiction and so how sex and porn addictions don't fit into it. Hannah and Silva then discuss compulsive sexual behaviours, which is what someone who might think they are a porn addict could be experiencing, and the causes of these behaviours and the potential distress they can cause.

CW: Discussion of sexual trauma. Main discussion begins at 40:11. Please skip this episode if you need to and look after yourself!

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✨MORE ABOUT SILVA NEVES✨
Silva Neves is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship
psychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. He is a Pink Therapy Clinical Associate. He
sees individuals and couples presenting with a wide range of sex and relationship issues.
Silva specialises in working with sexual trauma and compulsive sexual behaviours.
Silva is a Course Director for CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology) and speaks
internationally. Silva is the author of Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians (2021, Routledge).

Website: https://www.silvaneves.co.uk/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SilvaNeves3
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silvanevespsychotherapy/

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