i think some of these sort of descents into untetheredness could have been stopped by just some clear boundary enforcement, by either one of the people involved. Being an adult, being a guardian of your kids, means stating unashamedly what you expect and what you will tolerate. And instead of wanting them going, hey, let's go have sex, it li literally anything but what they were doing would be healthieryes or in some cases, you can imagine that they had a lot of this started with some sort of conversation about the sensitive topics which didn't go well. Yean, to me, the other lesson is like, it's ok to fook and tell your