Sarah: I feel like I'm missing out on a real relationship my husband says he prefers masturbation and pornography instead of sex with me mm that's a great one too. For some humans it might be easier for them because they don't have to worry about vulnerability and connection when they're masturbating and looking at porn right? Sarah: There is something about what they make it mean if they get turned away for sex not all men but some do so it feels very vulnerable to them to approach their wife for sex. Some men get really self-conscious or upset if their wife starts to make more money than them has nothing to do with the wife it has everything to do with some of their own