How to Find Connections With Other People

This has always been my like deep melancholy whenever I hear about this stuff because it's hard to find connections with other people. There is a another guy Ross whose primary game is quote technology, which is a word for like Psychological techniques. He believes that he is a master of hypnosis so he does things like try to get women to associate positive emotions with him at one point. It feels like it's just how deep the insecurity runs right like right? They have to imagine everything as part of the game because if it's not then there's sort of like laid bare.