Curiosity over Control: The Practice That Opens Safety

This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with Lexy Florentina, a somatic experiencing practitioner, writer, and teacher helping people reconnect with their bodies after trauma. In this beautiful, grounding conversation, Lexy helps us understand what it means to build a relationship with the body—not to fix or control it, but to listen to it.

Through stories, science, and a live somatic exercise with Blake, Lexy guides us to see that the body isn’t the enemy. It’s been fighting for us, not against us. Together they explore how men, in particular, have been conditioned to override, shame, or disconnect from their emotions—and how healing begins when we learn to be curious instead of critical.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt stuck, numb, or at war with themselves.

Takeaways

• Healing begins when we stop trying to fix our bodies and start listening to them.

• The body’s reactions aren’t failures—they’re survival strategies born from protection.

• Curiosity is the foundation of healing; judgment keeps us disconnected.

• Trauma narrows our menu of choices—healing shows us there are other options.

• Men often carry a shame-based or control-based relationship with their bodies; soft curiosity opens the door to safety.

• Our bodies are always communicating; the question is whether we’ll listen.

Check out more of Lexy Florentina: Website – lexyflorentina.com Instagram – @lexyflorentina Community – Held: A co-resting membership for learning to be with your body

Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.com Instagram – @threepercentco

Chapters

(00:00) Welcome & Introducing Lexy Florentina

(03:00) What Is Somatic Experiencing?

(07:00) Lexy’s Story: From Complex Trauma to Healing

(10:00) The Body as an Ally, Not an Enemy

(13:00) Why Men Struggle to Connect with Their Bodies

(16:00) Curiosity vs. Control

(18:00) How We Learn to Disconnect from Ourselves

(22:00) “I Can’t Change This, But I Can Help You Not Feel It”

(25:00) A Live Somatic Exercise with Blake

(31:00) Finding Safety and Sturdiness in the Body

(35:00) The Importance of Agency and Choice in Healing

(38:00) Watching Healing in Real Time

(40:00) Why We Consume Information to Fix Ourselves

(42:00) There’s Nothing Wrong With You—Your Body Is Doing Its Job

(44:00) Lexy’s Work: Community, Courses, and “Held”

(46:00) Closing Reflections

Resources

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

• Gabor Maté – drgabormate.com
  

Keywords

Lexy Florentina, somatic experiencing, trauma healing, nervous system, emotional regulation, embodiment, holistic masculinity, men’s mental health, trauma response, curiosity, shame, body awareness, mindfulness, self-compassion, somatic therapy, healing, co-regulation, connection, faith, vulnerability, emotional safety, Three Percent podcast