How to Become More Secure in a Relationship

In the first column bring to mind emotionally intense moments from the course of the relationship and ask what specific events triggered strong emotional responses. The next quality is note what the long-term outcome of these actions were did we feel better after we took this response closer safer or did we feel less confident in the relationship more distant? And then the last fifth column is to visualize what the secure individual would have done what was the secure choice.