You're Not Just Responding Defensively Automatically

"You give them every chance because you show a certain degree of vulnerability," he says. "If they insist on being a dick after chance one, two and three, well, then at least the cards are on the table is very clear who they are and what they are doing." He adds that sometimes parents have to sit down with their kids and explain why it's so important not to hit people in the face or run into things like cars. The author has been married for more than 20 years; his son was born last year.