In this last segment, Dr. David Snyder is going to talk about the Three Magic Questions. The three magic questions protocol is designed to stimulate the level of interest in intimacy on a progressively deeper level. Dr. David will discuss how to use the Three Magic Question and how it can change your life in many areas.
Standout Quotes:
· “The purpose of level one questions is to get people out of their head and into the world relating to you and to do it in a non-threatening way. In the real world, people are very sensitive to certain kinds of questions. S0 if you ask the wrong questions, their defenses might go up.”
· “In modern society, you are what you do. What you do as a profession becomes part of your identity.”
· “As simple as the echo technique is, if you start using this on other people, they will tend to like you a lot. In the end, you might get what you want, but they might lose something that is valuable to them.”
Key Takeaways:
· Level One Questions are designed specifically to redirect the focus of attention from internal-dissociated to external-associated in a non-threatening way. There will still be cases where initial defensiveness or weariness comes up. But the more playful you are, the faster those defenses go down.
· Our profession is part of our identity. When we lose our livelihood, we also lose other parts of our life. One of the reasons that happen is because when we lose that job, we lose a piece of their identity.
· If you use the echo technique on someone like a barista, a waiter, or any other working person, they will put their attention to you. This means that they will spend a lot of time talking to you, and in turn, they might end up ignoring the things around them. So you have to utilize the echo technique in a playful and explorative way while paying attention to the results.
Episode Timeline:
[00:27] The Three Magic Questions Protocol
[01:00] Level One Questions
[03:45] Rules to Follow when using the Three Magic Questions
[06:20] The Four Basic States
[10:38] Opinion Openers
[12:54] Level Two Questions
[14:04] Identity Statements
[15:56] What you want to be aware of at Level Two Questions
[20:09] Level Three Questions
[22:24] Why you should be careful in asking Level Three Questions
[25:57] The Process of Softening
[29:50] The Secret with Softening
[35:27] Why is Martial Arts so Powerful?
[38:01] Utilizing Criterion Values in a Romance Context
[43:10] How the Three Magic Questions can Change your Life
[50:27] How to know which of Dr. David’s Programs is for you
