Grief can be overwhelming for anyone — but for people with ADHD, it can show up in surprising ways.
Therapist Rachel Hopkins joins host Cate Osborn to unpack the intersection of ADHD and grief. They discuss how time blindness, emotional intensity, and memory challenges can shape the grieving process — and how ADHDers might mourn in nonlinear, unconventional ways. Rachel also offers some insights for anyone struggling to grieve “the right way” while living with a neurodivergent brain.
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Timestamps
(00:48) A word from Cate on ADHD and grief
(03:05) Nonlinear ADHD grief
(06:11) Executive function challenges and grief
(09:34) Emotional regulation and planning immediately following a loss
(11:03) Time perception challenges and processing grief
(15:34) Rejection sensitivity and worrying about others’ judgement of our grieving
(20:19) Balancing distraction and avoidance
(26:24) The importance of acknowledging that your ADHD will affect your grief, and celebrating your wins
(27:29) ADHD and delayed grief reactions
(29:30) Advice for neurotypical people supporting an ADHDer through grief
(30:44) Rachel’s last thoughts and advice for any ADHDer going through grief right now
For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org.
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