The Pressure Point of Racism

The last thing a suburban white family wants to be called is racist and anything but that please don't call me. I haven't heard in my life, maybe since 1970s, a so called white person say the inward. It's almost exclusively used by the African American male community. And we're told that even to say what I just did is racist that you don't understand that. The rules of its uses are so arcane that nobody can understand them.